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On Saturday February 28th, 2015 Muslim Family Services (MFS), a Division of ICNA Relief USA Programs offered a day-long workshop entitled “Blissful Marriage A to Z” that gave tips on developing ‘bliss’ in marriage and making it last. The workshop was developed and led by renowned authors Drs. Ekram & Mohammed Rida Beshir. This husband and wife team are the authors of “Blissful Marriage: A Practical Islamic Guide” and many other books relating to the Muslim household. The workshop ran from 10:30 am to 6:00 pm.

Blissful Marriage

Some of the attendees

The event was held at the Muslim Community of the Western Suburbs (MCWS) in Canton, Michigan. With approximately 100 guests, primarily made up of couples sitting side by side, the scene was perfect for an interactive marriage workshop. The duo opened up with their 1st session that asked the question, when is a person ready to get married?  Many of us feel that we are ready for marriage when we have free time, land a high-paying job or reach a certain age. However, the authors stated that in Islam, an individual is ready to get married when they have reached sexual maturity and have some means to support a spouse, even if those means are little.

The hadith by our beloved prophet Muhammad (pbuh) states that

“… from Ibn Mas‘ood, who said: We were with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), young men who had nothing of wealth. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” (Bukhari, 5066)

Dr. Mohammed Beshir advised the guest that if they know someone else trying hard to get married who does not have the means, to help facilitate marriage for them because it inshAllah will be counted as helping them with half of their faith. It was also mentioned that a person should have good character and a keen idea about how respect and collaboration should work whilst seeking a spouse. Other proofs that one is ready for marriage are: understanding the nature and objectives of marriage, having clear knowledge of gender and spousal relations in Islam, understanding the Qur’anic rule of communication, knowing how to resolve conflicts in an Islamic way and understanding what Qawamah(family leadership obligations) means and its implications in family life.

The majority of the tips given in this workshop related to respect, understanding, compassion, kindness, sincerity, affection and iman (faith). For an individual to have a healthy marriage, they must develop the purest form of all of these characteristics. Even in our disagreements, a Muslim should remember Allah (swt) and consider their spouses feelings. It is so easy to point the finger and avoid the blame. However, to be in an honest relationship, one must be well, honest. This means that 50% of the time, the argument is due to something that you did; you spouse is not always the root cause.

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Authors Drs. Ekram & Mohammed Rida Beshir

The authors mentioned that divorce is the most hated permitted act in Islam by Allah (swt). It tears apart families and tribes leaving emotional wounds on parent and child alike. Divorce should be the last resort to solving marital problems; one should never use it as a threat. It is advised that the Muslim exhaust all means before concluding on divorce except in the case of deep physical and mental abuse at the hands of a spouse. Islam does not support oppression of any kind.

The guest were broken down into six groups and given three case studies to tackle; with two groups doing cross-comparisons of their case studies. These studies allowed couples to exercise their judgment about the inappropriate and appropriate ways to handle spousal conflict. There was a case in which a husband had been trying to call his wife all day and kept getting her voice mail. As the hours passed, he grew increasingly worried about her well-being. The wife, had been with her good Muslim friends all day and was having so much fun that she lost track of time. Not having realized that her phone battery went dead, she returned home. Her husband, extremely upset, expressed his panic over her being missing. When she explained that her phone battery went dead and that she was simply at a friend’s house; he asked that she ask him before day-long visits with friends. She felt that he was being too controlling. The groups were asked to dissect the scenario and point out the faults and offer solutions.

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Both groups agreed that the wife was irresponsible due to her heedlessness about her phone battery being dead. They noted that it is important that all phone owners keep their phones charged in case of emergency and in order to check in with their spouse. They could understand why the husband grew panicky when unable to reach his wife after several attempts; noting that his emotion was out of pure concern for his wife’s well-being. It was suggested that instead of making his wife ask to go visit a friend, he could have asked that she inform him instead so that the couple knows the whereabouts of their spouse out of courtesy.

The workshop ended with advice to all married couples and those wanting to get married. It is important not to ‘idealize’ your spouse; by doing so, you are putting them on an unrealistic pedestal of perfection that they will never meet. Getting angry makes it difficult to resolve issues according to Islamic guidelines. So, avoid getting angry by sitting down like the prophet Muhammad (pbuh) advised. Build your family on love and mercy. Learn how to forgive and forget. Take initiative in your home and do not expect your spouse to do everything for you. Lastly, practice patience. InshAllah with this advice all of us will have blissful marriages.

            

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Asalamu alaikum good people! Muslim Family Services has lined up 3 exciting events just for you this weekend. On Friday February, 27th at 6:30 pm, MFS will be hosted by ICD in a free promo night for the "Blissful Marriage A to Z" workshop the following morning. During this hour long event, Drs. Ekram & Mohammed Rida Beshir, authors of "Blissful Marriage A to Z : A Practical Islamic Guide", will be advising on " How to Attain Paradise in our Homes".  InshAllah, this will be a great preview of the "Blissful Marriage A to Z" workshop.

On Saturday February 28th from 10:30 to 5:00 pm., Drs. Ekram and Mohammed Rida Beshir will be offering their workshop "Blissful Marriage A to Z". This event is co-sponsored by MCWS in Canton and is scheduled to be held there as well. Onsite Registration for this workshop begins at 9:30 am.  Cash or Checks accepted only. Free Breakfast and Lunch will be available inshAllah. Babysitting available as well. See flyer for fees.

Last but not least, on Sunday March 1st, MFS will host our Annual Fundraiser dinner! Not only will the 3-course dinner be amazing inshAllah but, we also have quite an exciting program prepared for you as well. This time around, we will hear from the voices of the individuals who have received help through our programs as they tell their stories and say their thanks.  You will not want to miss this dinner! InshAllah, it will be a great time and a great success!May Allah (swt) preserve you all and grant you health and continued prosperity. Say Ameen! We hope to see you all this weekend!

 

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On Saturday January 24th and Sunday January 25th of 2015, volunteers from various parts of southeastern Michgan came out to help our disaster relief team clean and gut out homes damaged in last Summer's flood. This is not the first time that our team touched down to provide aide for flood victims. We responded during summer after the flood came as well. Due to the overwhelming amount of damaged homes in our area, our team returned to help relieve some of the families still suffering this second time around. Most of these families reside in the Dearborn and Detroit area. 

We wanted say JzAkhr to all of the volunteers who helped our team clean and gut out homes in Detroit last weekend. May Allah reward you all!

 

To become a disaster response volunteer, please sign up here.

*Select the event volunteer option as the disaster response opportunities are on case by case basis. Specify your interest as 'disaster response'.

 

Please enjoy a few pictures from the cleanup.

 

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Gutting out a home

 

Icna Disaster Relief 2015

 ICNA Relief USA on the scene

 

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Heavy lifting

 

 Disaster Relier Jan 2015

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Did you know that there are families still struggling from the damages of last August's flood? ICNA Relief Disaster Response team will be back in Detroit this weekend helping to clean out the basements of these homes. We need your help!

Please come out Saturday Jan. 24th & Sunday Jan. 25th from 9:00 am-4:00 pm to help out your brothers and sisters in humanity.

*Register to volunteer: http://ow.ly/HEh3i 

*You will receive a notification of the location site via text msg or email according to what you provide. JzAkhrn!

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Asalamu alaikum friends and family,

It is with great honor that we announce the arrival of a dynamic workshop entitled "Blissful Marriage Ato Z"! Led by renowned authors Drs. Ekram and Mohammed Rida Beshir, this workshop is not one to be missed. The dynamic duo and power couple have authored an array of books pertaining to individual's, couple's and family health and success with an emphasis on Islamic guidelines.

  Learn how to build a successful marriage under the laws of Allah (swt). Join us in this interactive workshop that aims to strengthen our community by strengthening our homes. InshAllah, it will change the way you view marriage forever!

Details:

When:  Saturday February, 28th, 2015

Where:  MCWS Gymnasium: 40440 Palmer Road, Canton, MI 48188 

Time:  10:30 AM-5:00 PM (Registration begins 9:30 AM)

Cost:  $10/individual, $15/couple, $25 Family of 3+ (Includes breakfast & lunch)

**Babysitting: $10/per child, 2 or more children $20 flat rate(cash to be paid onsite)

Ticketing:

Early Bird  Registration: All tickets can be reserved using the 'Register' link at the bottom of the page. Once you have reserved your ticket, please proceed to pay for your reservation through our donate now link. Simply click on the yellow donate button and proceed with your checkout.

 

***If you are reserving a ticket for you and your spouse, select a quantity of 2 tickets. 

***If you are reserving a ticket for your family of four, select a quantity of 4 tickets.

 

 

**Late on-site registration will also be available on the day of the event although purchasing early bird tickets is recommended in order to secure a spot. Late Registration begins at 9:30 AM.

**CASH OR CHECK WILL BE ACCEPTED ONSITE!

 We pray to see you all there, inshAllah.

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